MMarketing Against The Grain
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Reset Expectations Through Action

Create transformation by demonstrating a standard the team did not expect.

Difficulty
Advanced
Time to result
~weeks to results
Steps
5
Confidence
92%

This framework distinguishes exceeding an established standard from resetting the standard itself. In ordinary leading by example, a leader performs a known behavior more intensely, such as training earlier or working harder. During transformation, the leader identifies additional behavior that the group does not yet expect but that the new challenge requires. The leader performs it visibly, creating evidence that the old assumptions no longer apply. That action puts the team on notice without relying only on speeches or formal mandates. Used well, the new behavior spreads because credible contributors recognize and emulate it. The mechanism is a shift in perceived possibility and obligation: once the leader embodies a previously unexpected standard, the team's reference point changes.

Origin

Extracted from Marketing Against The Grain's debate over Kobe Bryant's role in resetting the Redeem Team's expectations.

Core principles

  • 01Transformation requires a break from the team's current expectations.
  • 02A leader can introduce necessary behavior before asking others to adopt it.
  • 03Visible action establishes credibility faster than rhetoric.
  • 04Crisis conditions may require a sharper standard than stable conditions.

How to run it

  1. 1

    Name the Existing Standard

    Determine what the team currently considers normal, sufficient, and expected.

    Pro tip Observe behavior under pressure rather than relying on stated values.

    Watch out You cannot reset a standard you have not accurately understood.

  2. 2

    Identify the Missing Behavior

    Find the additional action or sacrifice that the transformation genuinely requires.

    Pro tip Choose behavior tied directly to the desired result.

    Watch out Novelty or aggression without strategic relevance becomes theater.

  3. 3

    Demonstrate It First

    Perform the new behavior yourself before demanding it from others.

    Pro tip Make the action visible enough to be noticed without turning it into self-promotion.

    Watch out A leader who exempts themselves destroys the standard's legitimacy.

  4. 4

    Let the Signal Spread

    Give credible team members room to respond and adopt the standard through their own choice.

    Pro tip Early voluntary adopters can make the behavior socially normal.

    Watch out Immediate coercion may produce compliance without commitment.

  5. 5

    Institutionalize the Standard

    Reinforce the behavior through expectations, routines, and recognition until it no longer feels exceptional.

    Pro tip Retain only standards the team can sustain.

    Watch out A permanent crisis tempo can cause burnout.

In the wild

Kobe Changes the Reference Point

Kobe Bryant trained at 5 a.m. while teammates were returning from a night out. He did not ask them to join him, but they gradually appeared in the gym one by one. His behavior changed what the team regarded as necessary preparation.

An unexpected personal standard became a shared team norm.

A Founder Resets Customer Response

During a customer-retention crisis, a founder personally joins the support rotation, resolves difficult cases, and publishes the learning daily. The act signals that customer recovery is not merely a support-department task.

Leaders across functions begin participating and customer responsiveness becomes a company-wide standard.

Common mistakes

Performing Aggression

A dramatic act that is disconnected from the required result resets attention, not useful expectations.

Demanding Before Demonstrating

Ordering sacrifice without embodying it weakens credibility.

Keeping Crisis Standards Forever

An intense reset should become a sustainable operating standard rather than endless emergency behavior.

Is it for you?

Best for

Leaders guiding a capable but stagnant team through a turnaround or demanding change.

Not ideal for

Stable teams where aggressive expectation resets would create unnecessary disruption or burnout.

From the transcript

Is like it's a resetting of expectations versus over exceeding the current expectations.

Kit Bodner · 12:00

He never asked him to, never told them to.

Kieran Flanagan · 12:00

He just did it.

Kieran Flanagan · 12:30

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